When a change is needed

There is no one more judgemental then you to yourself.

Us mums really like to take a beating. Especially by ourselves, we think about it at night, we think about it after our child doesn’t behave a certain way or we behave in a way we should not.

So what do you do?
I read it everywhere, we should stop.
We are doing just fine.
We should be less harsh on ourselves.

But should we really?
Say whaaaaaaat?!
Yes! Think about it… If you think YOU can do better or act more appropriate instead of that little tiny overreaction we had when our child climbed on the table for the 10th time, why not change?
Why do we think it’s ok? And what can we do to change?
(of course this doesn’t count for everyone, it counts for those thinks it should count for them)

When we are tense or emotional it’s often a sign of having too many feelings cropped up and too little outlets to handle them.
You can talk about it more with your partner or your friend but that doesn’t always help.

So I challenge you.
For 10 minutes a day.
TEN MINUTES..
Seriously, you can find ten minutes of giving your child a snack in their high chair or during naptime or you know, instead of tidying the house for the fourth time today.

Why you shouldn’t do it with a youngling on the lose..
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Change into something comfortable that allows you to stretch and do sun salutations.
Yes, yoga..
It’s a challenge, be open for it, and for a week long try to do it for 10 minutes.
I’ve posted my favourite youtube video of it, just try.
One week is all I ask for and you tell me in all honesty whether or not you feel different after.
And by no means do you have to have experience!!

 


It’s not my video, I do not know the lady in the video, it’s not advertisement.
I’m just talking of personal experience after a great friend reminded me of sun salutations and I am so much more relaxed about everything throughout the day.
It’s hard to explain the feeling, I suppose you could say I have more inner peace but I’m scared that might scare some people away who think I’m just another yoga hippy (which in reality I am, haha) 

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Let me know how you get on if you do decide to give it a go!

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Teething, remedies and dangers

Another night interrupted, filled with cuddles of comfort.
It can’t be nice to wake in such pain and I’m sorry I can’t always relieve it.. 

I am no fan of painkillers, frequent use can be very dangerous and have long-term, sometimes damaging, effects.
As teething can last for months at a time it is not my to go to form of relieve.

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I prefer to seek for more natural remedies, here are my favourites;

  • Chamomile tea
    The best all-rounder, its stomach soothing – anti-inflammatory – anti-irritant – sleep aid and muscle relaxing.
    Suitable from the early months, can be taking by mum to pass through breastmilk or made with the boiled water meant for formula, I would advice to do 3  cups/ bottles a day to reach full benefits.
    You could also freeze the tea in ice cubes, tie in a muslin to let baby gnaw on it.
  • Baltic amber
    Works for some not for others but I say it is worth a try! Scientifically there isn’t a lot of evidence but mama’s words prove different
    It’s not easy to find an honest real Baltic amber trader but once you do, it could be worth investing in an anklet or necklace, which ever you prefer (please make your necklace into an anklet at night to avoid choking risks)
  • Chew objects
    Any safe kind, at a young age mine preferred objects on room temperature, but now molars are appearing cold and frozen seems to do the trick.
    Sophie the giraffe is a well known favourite, light and multiple chew options!
    Cold carrots sticks for older babies, do be careful for bits that can break off.

As I am looking into natural relief for teething I keep stumbling on recalled and dangerous products out there, claiming to be a great product to help soothe teething pains.
At the top of its market are teething gels, oh yes, recalled by the fda, these little substances often contained benzocaine, found in oragel and anbesol (which was my favourite with my first son) they have since adjusted their ingredient list and now use Lidocaine Hydrochloride, a drug that has unknown long term use effects (benzocaine once had the same unknown effects until a pattern of side effects appeared)
A close second being teething granules/pills, I am all for homeopathic but allot of companies have taken interest in it and use beneficial natural products like chamomile but often diluted to extreme tiny amounts (funny enough broadly advertised on the front) that it will barely work. A famous one being Hyland’s teething tablets, who contain belladonna, their product has been recalled due to uncontrolled amounts of belladonna giving adverse reactions leading to extremes as seizures and brain bleeds. They have been put back on the market 9 months later with a child safety cap and now claim (like before) to have controlled measurements of belladonna. Hmm I’m not convinced..

Of course, I know at least one or two people who read this will think
‘but my (grand)mother/I used such and such and I/my baby turned out fine’  (unfortunately it takes that one time where it won’t turn out fine)
Or the famous ‘if it wasn’t safe it would not be sold’
(don’t go there.. I will throw the most notorious one back which is, why do they still sell cigarettes?)

 

I am puzzled, I will stick with replacing my toddlers water to cold chamomile tea for now.
But do not despair!
I am working on a paste that will work similar to teething gels but using whole cloves (steeped in oil) mixed with coconut oil to harden.
A safer way then using essential clove oil (advised against under 2 but great to numb gums!) so stay tuned!

Not the mama! 

 

I used to watch dinosaurs, thinking it was funny, the baby who would do all sorts of things to his dad all because he was not the mama.

Not so funny when it actually happens in your own home..
You see my dearest youngest son goes through days where he flat out refuses anyone’s care but mine and he will do everything he can, in order to get it.

 

I rarely have lay ins.
As soon as daddy gets up we know what’s going to happen, he will go with him quietly or it goes a bit like this..
It’s as if he thinks; oh noo not him again, you can see the disappointment in his face and he throws himself back. I get him out of bed and he will look at our bedroom door, when I walk the opposite direction towards the stairs the crying starts.. I do everything the same in the morning as the mama but he won’t accept it. He will go to the living room door, sit there and cry, pushing it so it makes noise. I can’t cuddle him, distract him or even bribe him. He simply won’t stop until she comes down.’

 

It is slowly getting better though, when we first started introducing foods we done a mix of baby led weaning and mashed foods. If I didn’t hold the spoon he would refuse to eat. No matter how hungry, he would not take a spoonful of anyone.
Night time waking is done by yours truly too, perhaps that comes from having breastfed him at night but he dropped it at 11 months.
Now he goes in screaming-banshee-mode if anyone else goes near him.

 

I can’t just get ready.
Getting ready for a (super rare) night out involves loads of distractions but usually ends like this

 And yes I always end up with a massacre of mascara near one of my eyes. 

 

There are loads of possible explanations why this is happening..
One thing people love to point out at me for making my baby too dependent

Thanks to carrying him


Or perhaps it’s because of doing what a woman knows best to do, for too long (though I would have loved to still be doing it!)
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Or maybe we should go down to the root of all evil.
That place where it all started..
28 weeks

 

Though you can be a small pain in my backside from time to time, I love how close we are right now.
Daddy patiently waits for when it’s his turn, once you become more interested in what he does.
And for now I will have limited lay in days on the weekend, until you are ready to let me go that bit more..
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A healthy energy snack

We all need a pick me up or a quick snack but instead of taking a bite out of that chocolate bar or get a sugar lift, try a healthier option!

 

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 These little goodness, filled with fuel, chocolate date balls are so easy to make!
All you need is a blender and two hands to roll them in. 

 Ingredients;

  • 1/3 cup pecans
  • 1/3 almonds
  • 1 1/3 pitted dates
  • 3 tbs shredded coconut
  • 1/2 tsp vanilla paste
  • 2 tbs cocoa powder (optional)
  • 1 tsp cinnamon (optional)
  • 2 tbs milk (almond) 

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Whizz together to a sticky paste, roll them into bite size balls followed by rolling them in your covering.
Totally up to you what! I used shredded coconut and sprinkles that we had left over but you can also use sesame seeds or grind nuts.

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Enjoy!

When it’s one of them days..

Aaaaaaaaah

Aaaaah

Aaaaaaaaahaaaaaaaaah


He stops to see what’s happening on the TV. 

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah 

Aaaaaahaaaa 

Aaaaaah 

He stops again. 

That’s me, very unfiltered, tired, headache and done. It’s been going on over e-ve-ry-thing all day long. 

Want a pear? Ok I’ll peel it, not good, don’t want it cut. Cry. 

Want a cracker? Ok, one for you and for your brother. Don’t want it. Cry. Brother has his, cry because now you do want it. 

Your full of cold, I need to wipe your nose. Cry. 

You want to get up the chair but fail. Cry. I put you on chair, cry because you don’t want to sit. 

We all have those days where you want to pull out your hair, scream as perhaps even cry with them. It is stressful and frustrating. 

Breath mama. Your the best, you will get through this day. 

Take a few deep breaths outside the room, gather yourself. 

Do yoga or another form of stress relieve/relaxation. Just for 10/15 min whilst your baby goes to sleep. Or wrap them on you and do it with them. 

Just don’t forget.. 

You can do this! 

You’re the best 


Besides, he’s over it now 🙂

HULK muffins, vegetable undercover

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We all love muffins, what is even better then a muffin is a healthy muffin.

Voila!

I present to you ‘the Hulk’ (previously known as Popeye muffins, but apparently that is not cool anymore)
With a great amount of spinach who’s flavour doesn’t burst through, make these your perfect kids snacks.

The recipe
Preheat the oven at 350F (175c) this makes around 9/10 muffins

  • 1/2 cup all purpose flour
  • 1/2 whole grain flour
  • 1/3 cup sugar
  • 1 tsp baking powder
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 1 1/2 tsp cinnamon
  • 1/2 tsp salt

Mix the dry ingredients above together.

  • 1/8 cup oil
  • 3/8 cup (soy) milk
  • 3 ounce (85gram) spinach

Put them in your blender and mix until puree

  • 1 banana
  • 1 1/2 tsp vanilla paste

Mash together, put it in the blender and mix through.

Poor the liquid mixture over the dry and mix through with a spoon.

Fill them in the muffin cases up to 2/3 full, leave in the oven for 18/20 minutes.

And tadaa, an awesome undercover vegetable in a great tasting muffin!

Disposable vs cloth – round 1

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I know you have heard of them dreaded washable diapers.
You know, them things that you wash clean of poo and wee in your washing machine, the same machine that washes your clothes..
Them things that add on your already mahoosive washing pile.

Well let me tell you something..

 

  • It can save you money.
    I say can because it can also come with a cloth addiction.
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  • You will save on garbage disposal.
    At least 1 bag a week, 5 a month! It all adds, and weighing at 500 years+ for decomposing.. What a crappy gift to leave your great great grandkids.       nappy-pile
  • Allot more bum friendly.
    The amount of heavy chemicals in a diaper is scary, TBT is in the plastic and Sodium Polyacrylate is what helps absorb liquids. Did you know  Sodium Polyacrylate has been banned since 1985 in tampons (believed to be related to toxic shock syndrome) yet it’s still very present in diapers??!  (and that is only because diapers aren’t used internal, but do not forget how close to the skin they are!)
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Those three points certainly have made up my mind.
You will not work your arse off to make a cloth bum happen.
If that didn’t do it for you, then so be it.
Here are a few more images to make my point come across.

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*pictures starring my dearest Logan*